Episode 29

Defeating Negative Self-Talk

Ready to dethrone your inner critic? Arm yourselves with the strategies we, Doug and Leslie Davis, lay out in this enlightening episode. We navigate the murky waters of negative self-talk and how it can stealthily impact our lives and relationships. We unveil how this internal critic operates on autopilot, spreading its influence beyond ourselves, affecting even those around us. Be prepared for a reality check as we discuss an example of how this negative self-talk if believed, can become crippling and manifest into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

As you journey with us, we’ll guide you through a systematic process aimed at identifying, assessing, and overcoming self-criticism. We examine how to replace these negative thought patterns with truth and how to take these intrusive thoughts captive. We share insights on how God can turn our struggles into strength, creating beauty from ashes. Armed with the truth from scripture, focusing on Philippians 4-8, we’ll help you counteract these negative thoughts and take back control.

The battle against negative self-talk doesn’t end here. Social media, with its potential to amplify negativity, is another front we must assess. We propose ways to limit its negative influence and share how intentional gratitude can serve as a powerful weapon against this internal adversary. We explore how to fill your heart with what is good and true and how to actively combat negative self-talk with positive thoughts and verses. We also extend an invitation for you, our listeners, to share the verses you use to combat your negative self-talk and how it has helped you. Let’s embark on this empowering journey together, to overcome negative self-talk, locate truth, and ultimately, fortify our marriages.

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Verses mentioned:

Jeremiah 17:9

1 Thes 5:21

2 Cor 10:5

Phil 4:8


Learn to notice when you are being self-critical.

Check for truth–remember that thoughts and feelings aren’t always true.

Cross-examine your inner critic.

Take those thoughts captive.

Replace neg self-talk with good.

Added points:

  • Spend less time on social media places that you feel draw out self-criticism.
  • Show gratitude.

Theme music: Dead Winter
Artists: White Bones
Composers: White Bones
Audio source: Epidemic Sound

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