Episode 13

How To Strengthen Your Marriage by Expanding Your Intimacies Part 2

Doug and Leslie continue their discussion of the well-known types of intimacies and help you recognize how you can strengthen your marriage by expanding your understanding of intimacies.

Things Mentioned in this episode:

Podcast Episode #5 How to Increase Spiritual Intimacy By Praying Together

Rick and Nancy Kay Grace’s interview

Free PDF with the 12 types of intimacies and descriptions

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Types of Intimacies mention in this episode:

Sexual intimacy includes flirting, sensuality, cuddling, play, touching, and arousing each other.

Emotional intimacy is the sharing of significant feelings. It’s foundational to the other types of intimacy.

Intellectual intimacy comes from sharing ideas and mind-stretching experiences together. For minds to connect, there has to be mutual respect for each other’s intellectual capacities. A wide gap in capacities can make it harder to achieve.

Aesthetic intimacy is the sharing of experiences of beauty through the enjoyment of art, music, nature, gardens, or even food and drink together.

Creative intimacy is obtained through designing and making things together.

Recreational intimacy is engaging in play to enjoy time outside of work, relieve stress, explore, relax, and exercise.

Work intimacy is the performing of tasks, including everyday ones: maintaining a home, raising a family, earning a living, and participating in the community. It’s deeply satisfying to plan and work with the support of a partner and to share in the satisfaction of completing tasks.

Crisis intimacy occurs when a couple stands together through hardship, big and small. Sometimes the relationship itself is a test, when adversity or change throws it off balance for a while. Struggling together deepens bonds—crisis intimacy is the ability to say we’ve been through some really hard times together. And it’s made us stronger.

Commitment intimacy is the reciprocity that develops over time with a shared dedication to a common goal.

Conflict intimacy comes from speaking up and facing differences in a respectful and helpful way.

Communication intimacy is honest, open, loving, proactive interaction.

Spiritual intimacy develops through sharing in the area of ultimate concerns, the meaning of life, and a relationship to the universe and God. It is stimulated and deepened through participation in a religious community, rituals, and traditions.

Credit: list of 12 intimacies Adapted by Alan Rutherford from The Intimate Marriage by Howard and Charlotte Clinebell (1970). https://www.alanrutherfordlpc.com/resources/twelve-types-of-intimacy

Theme music:
Artists: White Bones
Composers: White Bones
Audio source: Epidemic Sound

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