Episode 51

Rediscovering Hope and Healing in Marriage through the Care Cycle

Welcome, dear friends, as we unveil the secret to halting the devastating Reactive Cycle in your marriage. Promising an insightful journey, this episode of The Vision-Driven Marriage introduces you to the five steps of the Care Cycle, a tool that promises to shepherd your marriage in a positive direction. Based on the wisdom of Robert Paul, author of “The Nine Lies That Ruin Our Marriage,” this episode promises a deep dive into the art of processing emotions and navigating conflicts by taking responsibility for your own emotional needs.

As we move along this voyage of rediscovery, we highlight the importance of owning our feelings and how casting them onto your partner can be detrimental. We touch on the necessity of inviting God into our healing process and the power of surrounding ourselves with honest and uplifting companions. In the latter part of our discussion, we examine the heart’s role in marriage and how keeping it open can be a beacon of hope in resolving underlying issues and disputes. So, lean into this conversation and explore how, with God’s assistance, you can breathe new life into your marriage.

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The Prayer from Restoring Hope

“God, please help me calm down, think clearly, and remember that my spouse is not the enemy. Help me lay down my fear, anger, hurt, and frustration in order to be open to your Holy Spirit and experience His peace, patience, kindness, and gentleness. Help me right now to have eyes to see and ears to hear so I can understand my own heart, what I am feeling, where it might be coming from, and what I am needing at this moment. Give me humility to see the log in my own eye and how I might be contributing to all that is happening right now within me and in my marriage.”1 In Jesus’ name, Amen.

  1. ‌ Paul, Robert, et al. Restoring Hope. Focus on the Family Publishing, 2023.

Book by Robert Paul: 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage

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Disclaimer: This podcast is provided for informational purposes only. We are not providing clinical counseling services through the podcast content, and the views expressed in this podcast should not be taken as professional mental health advice. The content shared on this podcast should not replace any medical or professional advice you may receive from a licensed healthcare provider. If you are feeling stuck, we urge you to seek the advice of a qualified counselor or coach before making any decisions pertaining to your mental health or well-being.

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